Bride's Brother Refuses To Attend Wedding Because Every Guest Is Allowed To Bring A Plus One Except For Him

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    Product - Posted by u/botttlogger 13 hours ago 3 AITA for refusing to go to my sisters wedding unless I get a plus 1?
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    Font - Alright Reddit. Need a judgement here. So my (26M) sister Jane (28F) is getting married this winter. I've been invited as a solo guest. No plus one. So I called my sister and asked if it was correct. Because every other person I talked to had a plus one, including other single people. And she said it was because of her friend Zoe (27F).
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    Font - So backstory time I guess. Me and my sister aren't the closest. But recently have been getting along better. About year ago I was back home for my sisters engagement party. I noticed her friend Zoe and immediately was into her. I struck up a conversation and she seemed interested. So I asked my sister what the situation is. And she told me to stay away as I wasn't her type. I asked what she meant and she told me to go ahead and see for myself. Ended up getting Zoe's number and we texted f
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    Font - She was kinda boring to be honest. Just wanted to just find a husband and have kids. She also wanted to be a STAM, which is something I don't want. We just had very different lifestyles and goals. I kinda let it fizzle after the second one. The last message however I sent was stupid and I admit it. I got really drunk one night and hit her up at like 2am asking if she wanted to come over. No response. Never texted again.
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    Font - Now here we are a year later. And my sister is telling me she can't give me a plus one because of Zoe. I demanded to know why. She said her and Zoe talked and it was her decision so I needed to get over it. I asked if Zoe was getting a plus 1 and she said yes. I said how unfair that was. And how I was planning to take a week off work, spend hundreds on clothes, gifts, hotel and a plane ticket to see her get married. And she is giving me solo invite in return?
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    Font - She told me get over it. So I told her have a great wedding then. She tried arguing but I told her I was done and hung up. Well then came the barrage of calls. My mom especially is livid. Saying she wants her whole family in attendance. I told her what was going on. She said yes my sister is out of line but also it is her place to be. So I needed to suck it up for one week. I said that I wasn't spending close to a thousand dollars to be treated differently. My family is livid and still ca
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    Font - LadyOoDeLally 13 hr. ago NTA. You're right to feel that your sister is being ridiculous and unfair here - but your mom is also right that it's your sister's right to be ridiculous and unfair about her wedding. I wouldn't go, personally. You're sister has a right to be TA and you have a right to avoid her because of it.
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    Font - ShyMagpie 13 hr. ago Partassipant [1] ΝΤΑ Sounds to me like Zoe has an unhealthy obsession with this guy, doesn't want to see him with another woman, and his sister is enabling it. Why else would he be the only one excluded from bringing a plus one given the related situation? Or Zoe is more important to her than her brother. It's an invitation, not a subpoena. He declined to attend, given the situation. Decisions were made on both sides.
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    Font - murphy2345678. 13 hr. ago Pooperintendant [56] NTA. I thought this was going to be the normal I should get a plus one because I want it. This is kind of creepy that Zoe is controlling your plus one. It's even more strange that your family is allowing it. If she has an issue with the BROTHER of the bride then she should stay home. I would stay home at this point no matter what anyone has to say.
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    Font - VlaxDrek 12 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [48] ΝΤΑ The corollary to "her wedding, her decision" is "your time and money, your decision". She told you to get over it, and you did. Now your mother has to get over not getting her way. That has to be the stupidest reason for refusing someone a +1 that I've ever heard. Even the "your partner can't come because your gay", while worse, is at least understandable. This is just irrational.
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    Font - Jsorrow 13 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA. While it's her wedding and she can set the rules. You're free to attend or not attend at you leisure. She has mandated that you are to be treated different and you need to suck it up. You've told her that won't do and are not attending. Family can stuff it. Especially when you have to go out of pocket. I wouldn't go even if they changed their mind on the plus one. Play the hand out, send a nice gift and a card.
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    Font - RavensShade13 12 hr. ago NTA. Frankly all the people here saying, "Oh your not entitled to a plus one." Are idiots. The OP has the right to be upset that everyone else has one but he doesn't. Yes, I understand the whole, frankly ancient concept, of the wedding is in the control of the bride but just like she has a right to name her rules, the OP has the right to say sorry not coming if not treated like everyone else.

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